Sucks what you ended up dealing with! And, I'm curious why a "sugar daddy" would ever seem like a good prospect. Seems like plenty of reasons why they would be among the most likely to be a jerk/SOB/etc.. For one, they have wealth and/or power as their insulation from consequences of their behavior. For another, to get that wealth and/or power in current society often requires that behavior, up to and including sociopath. And one can't just pretend to be that way, at least not for long - one is that way to start with, or becomes that way by chasing the wealth and/or power. Which very often involves commodification of everything, including other humans, and seeing all interactions as merely win-lose transactions.