Well done! This is the best unpacking and deconstruction of this behavior and its systemic implications I’ve yet seen. Gems of clarity throughout…my favorites:

Call-out culture is only ever consumer-driven and using our power as consumers for anything other than completely giving up all consumption, in order to grow our vegetables, build our own homes, and make our own clothes, means that we’ve already become hypocrites; we’ve already become their useful idiots. Spend, complain, spend more money on overpriced diversity-friendly crap, repeat.

When all a culture has (to offer) is ‘products’, every ‘-ism’ looks like a product marketing opportunity.

Fighting with that guy over his use of a word is not going to change anything, because he doesn’t have the kind of power that matters. And in fact, his use of the word “cunt” is most likely an attempt to identify with the kind of men who do have the kind of power that matters.

Profanity (and name calling in general) can be one indicator of a weak mind trying to express itself forcefully.

Saying “cunt” in order to get “likes”, laughs, or maybe a BJ is not worth calling in the social justice brigade, it’s just sad. The time spent and emotional investment in changing the sad guy’s mind is wasted time.

Choosing our battles matters. Also what weapons we wield. Handing this guy a victim card (by attacking him, a.k.a. the social justice brigade) does nothing, or maybe makes the situation worse. A little creative empathy towards his underlying sadness, fear, or anger might shift something in a different direction. It would certainly be a “surprise attack,” in a patriarchy that teaches us empathy is weakness.

…and the top highlight…and

…call out culture isn’t enough to produce transformative change. It allows for too much virtue signaling and victim-making to actually keep track of what the actual issues are….

…the problems that call out culture focus on too often don’t offer a comprehensive understanding of what’s happening to us systematically. …What if we called out income inequality, corporate corruption and the means of production instead of examples of cultural appropriation by musicians? What if we were known for challenging systemic racism in our policies instead of discussing individual stories of marginality?

And last but definitely not least,

Put simply, the main problem with call-out culture and SJWs is that too often they abandon a holistic view of systemic problems in favor of isolating and shaming individual people for doing what they were always going to do within these systems, abuse their own power. …critiques ought to be connected to larger systems and their root causes.

It seems a lot easier in our culture to be self-righteous, and mistake name-calling for taking relevant meaningful action, than to take relevant meaningful action. Thanks for laying this out so clearly.